Grief is awkward.

I’ve realized over the last few weeks and months that no one teaches us how to grieve. What to do. No one teaches us how to support those who are grieving—what to do, say, or offer. I’ve been on both sides supporting, and being supported, and it is clear we are all mostly awkward AF….

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Anger and Rage.

There are stages of grief. Or that’s what people say. People say a lot of things. I’m at the anger stage. Maybe it’s rage? Where’s the line? Maybe it doesn’t matter. Angry. At myself. For being numbed to the dangers of epilepsy by years of our daughter’s seizures. For the what ifs. The sliding doors….

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A Eulogy for My Boy

Shea Thomas,  We celebrate you today. Your friends are here. Your family. Your “Framily”. Your crowd. Your school. A firetruck came. Yep, it’s red. Georgie is here. People from all over your life.  We’ve got so many pictures and videos and memories- all of you being cute and mischievous. You would be so happy and…

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Measuring Contentment – 2022 Annual Review Part 2

Is Contentment Measurable? Or does the act of attempting to measure it mean you are in fact, not content? In part one, I reflected on a year that felt a bit meh, despite all the evidence otherwise. On how “more” wasn’t simply the answer, even if I expected it to be.  I was able to…

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Less Treadmill, More Trails – 2022 Annual Review Part 1

About my annual review: For the last 10 or so years, I’ve tried to look back at the year before and see how it stacks up, while also setting goals for the year to come. I find the exercise invaluable as a mechanism to be inspired to do more cool stuff. The categories Life, Fitness, Business & Travel work best for me.

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This is America.

We have flags for Ukraine, and Blue Lives Matter, and A Hero lives Here. Little kids still get killed at school. We put out signs signs that say Hate has No Home Here and Let’s go Brandon. Little kids still get killed at school. We have gun-lovers who put stickers on their trucks to tell…

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But Me, I’m Tired.

When I write, I often defer to writing about my own baggage through a lens of positivity. Things are hard, but I am lucky. Life is tough, but I have so many advantages. Challenges are real, but others have it worse. This is not that. Rather than letting my optimism get the best of me,…

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Annual Review Part 2- Or the Dangers of Too Much “Self-Care”

As I outlined in part 1, while on-the-surface 2021 was successful, it had a tinge of malaise woven throughout. Naturally that leads me to focus my energy on breaking through that feeling of languishing as Adam Grant defines it.  Looking back with some perspective, external factors lead me to be more lax about my own…

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Annual Review Part 1: 2021

Each year, I try to take a moment to reflect on the year before and set forth with intention about the year to come. This year, I have to be honest that after 10+ years in a row, I never actually published the second part outlining what I was hoping for in 2021. That in…

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Annual Review Part 1: The Terrorist That Was 2020. Also, Luck.

Part 1: The Terrorist That Was 2020. Also, Luck. On January 1st 2020 at 7am or so 2 year old daughter, Lida had a very serious seizure. She has has had a few every year, but this was the worst we’d dealt with. As in – emergency meds not working, fire trucks and ambulances all…

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